Don’t try to rebuild your life.
REBUILD YOURSELF
Rebuilding after loss, through Beauty, Art, Rhythm and Stories (B.A.R.S.)

Now available · A memoir
What Grief Could Not Take
If grief has ever left you standing in rubble with no five-step plan in sight, this book is for you. It will not hand you closure. It will hand you something you can use, a way to keep choosing joy while the rubble is still there.
“The book does not rescue you. It offers a path.” Rudra, India
“More than a memoir. A thoughtful invitation to participate in your own rebuilding.” Cleo Taarini, United States
“This book made me pause and look at my own life a little differently.” Deepika, India
4.8 out of 5 on Amazon.in, from 10 ratings · Read reviews on Amazon
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The way home has three doors
Pick the one that fits where you are today.
Embracing Chaos
Everything just broke.
Small, wordless ways to hold what just broke.
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Building Resilience
I’m still standing. Now what?
Practical rhythms for rebuilding, one choice at a time.
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Find & Express Joy
Who am I becoming?
Everyday proof that joy and depth can coexist.
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Hello, I’m Roopa Vittal
I am here to remind you, amidst pain,
Joy endures.
I’m a mother, a storyteller and a dancer. This is where I share the stories and small practices that helped me after loss, in case they help you too.
Author of What Grief Could Not Take. Bharatanatyam dancer for over 40 years. 25 years in technology.
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