The Quick Answer The opposite of productivity is not laziness. Maybe it is aliveness. We were taught that what we produce is evidence of who we are, so we run like racehorses, quietly afraid of what happens if we can no longer race. The antidote is not to stop running. It is to keep parts […]
We chase the outcome, self love, peace, forgiveness, while ignoring the input that produces it. Self love is a byproduct of self-trust. Letting go is a byproduct of building. Forgiveness is a byproduct of outgrowing. Focus on the action, not the outcome. It works, invariably.
Wealth comes in many forms. Before you rebuild a bank balance, name the assets no one taught you to count, a love of learning, delayed gratification, an eye for craft, and the rituals that steady you under pressure. These are not sentiment. They are what actually rebuilt mine, twice.
Money is a powerful tool, but it should never become your identity. In this personal reflection, I explore the two money traps of having too little and having too much, and how redefining my relationship with wealth helped me find something far more valuable than financial success: freedom and peace.
Rebuilding financially after a major loss can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re starting over with responsibilities and uncertainty. In this personal story, I share how I rebuilt my financial life after becoming a single mother, the mistakes I made, and the five money lessons that transformed my relationship with wealth. From learning to pay myself first to understanding that financial freedom is really about having choices, these principles helped me move from survival to independence. If you’re wondering how to rebuild financially after divorce, job loss, or any life upheaval, I hope my journey offers both practical guidance and hope.
Yes, you can hold profound grief and everyday joy in the same day. Joy does not betray what you lost. With time the grey becomes the backdrop, and the small yellows, a line of sun, a cup of tea, look brighter against it. The question: can you let it bloom?
We celebrate the self-made. The older I get, the less I believe in them. “I built this myself.” We celebrate these words. We put them on magazine covers, repeat them in commencement speeches, admire people who seem to have risen by sheer force of will. But the older I get, the less I believe in […]
When rebuilding after loss focusing one oneself is the best way to move forward. Small consistent habits pay off.
I have been dancing since I was five. Not as a hobby. As a practitioner who has organised life around it through every season. Education. Deaths. Motherhood. Rebuild. Someone once told me no one cares if you don’t dance. It was the most liberating thing I ever heard.
I spent years heartbroken over the flowers I didn’t receive.
Then life fell apart, and I began planting things instead.
A plant here. A flower there. Small acts of care repeated over years.
One day, I realized:
I had become someone capable of growing an entire garden.
The garden is still growing.