It is okay to grieve the love, marriage or career you imagined and still want more. The risk is letting that unlived life steal the one you are living now.
The Quick Answer The opposite of productivity is not laziness. Maybe it is aliveness. We were taught that what we produce is evidence of who we are, so we run like racehorses, quietly afraid of what happens if we can no longer race. The antidote is not to stop running. It is to keep parts […]
Yes, you can hold profound grief and everyday joy in the same day. Joy does not betray what you lost. With time the grey becomes the backdrop, and the small yellows, a line of sun, a cup of tea, look brighter against it. The question: can you let it bloom?
We mourn lost dreams as if they take away our very power. But loss only takes the old story. It never takes our ability to dream again. Pause, reclaim your energy, and let a new dream, truer to your path, find its way through you.
We live in a culture where pain endurance is a virtue. Especially if you belong to a middle-class Brahmin household like I do, endurance is almost celebrated. The more you endure, the more virtuous you are seen. Enduring disrespect, emotional starvation, the absence of love or harmony, all of this gets woven into your story. […]
Some losses are final and definitive. A death. A separation. A sudden shift that takes something away for what you believed it to be. Others are more insidious. They don’t just take. They erase. Smudge , create self doubt making you wonder who you are. Grief doesn’t just bring pain. It brings a quiet destruction […]
When life spirals into chaos, many of us turn to God, hoping for answers, clarity, or maybe just a miracle. And what do we get? Guilt and shame, wrapped in religious bows, whispering: “Did I deserve this?”“Am I being punished?”“Why am I the only one failing at life?” Here’s the truth: God isn’t your nosy […]
Embrace Chaos · Stories Twin Birds: Shame and Guilt Loss has a way of inviting company you never asked for. Did you lose a loved one? Did your relationship just end? Did you lose a job? Are you standing in the wreckage of something that used to be whole? What a perfect stage for the […]
When I became a single parent, the pain of that identity transformation was overwhelming. Staying focused on the good amidst such turmoil felt almost impossible, especially when there was no agreement on the causes of the breakdown. Accepting the situation was one step forward, but how does one handle the negative interactions or those deeply […]
Let’s Get Real Most of us cling to our pain like a worm in dung, not because we want to, but because it’s familiar, and we’re damn good at living it over and over. We have an extraordinary ability to endure suffering, but here’s the kicker: that strength pales in comparison to the courage it […]