What Grief Could Not Take
A Memoir of Rebuilding a Life After Loss
If grief has ever left you standing in rubble with no five-step plan in sight, this book is for you. It will not hand you closure. It will hand you something you can use, a way to keep choosing joy while the rubble is still there.
What if the life you rebuild is a life you love, not necessarily the one you lost.
What if the pain of should have, could have, would have is the real loop.
What if it is the fear and anxiety of the unknown that keeps you up at night.
What if the financial free fall makes you wonder if you will ever make it.
Pain has layers. The losses are the first layer. The loops, the should haves and could haves, are the second. The fears of what is still unknown are the third. Most of us are carrying all three at once, and the second and third layers can hurt longer than the first ever did.
This book will not undo the first layer. Nobody can hand that back to you. But it can help you put down the second and third, so the loops and the fears stop piling into something heavier than the loss itself.
I did not study B.A.R.S., , , , . I lived it, through my firstborn’s heart, my father’s death, a marriage that ended, and a financial free fall that took the ground out from under me, one small act at a time. This book is how.
“A beautiful read and a wonderful reminder that while life may take many things from us, there are some things we can choose to hold on to—hope, gratitude, perspective and joy.”
Written with warmth, honesty and simplicity, this book feels less like a self-help manual and more like a thoughtful conversation with a friend.
This book came out of a real house, built room by room, corner by corner, out of everything she was not willing to lose. Walk through the library where it was written, the garden that taught her about constraint, and every corner in between.
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