“Feelings are valid, but they are not commands.
They are a compass, not the destination.
Krishna felt deeply, yet he did what needed to be done.
That is the quiet strength of dharma.”
Most of us are performing love, not living it. We keep peace. We avoid discomfort. We shut down difficult conversations. We suppress anger. We are taught to behave a certain way if we want to be loved. But that is not love. That is polite survival. Real love is not a performance. It is a […]
Control vs Care: A Quiet Struggle for Mothers and Women If you are a woman and a mom, there’s always a fine line between control and care. We love control and yes, it often overlaps with care. It feels empowering, productive, even noble. But the truth is it rarely allows for moments of authentic connection. […]
We live in a culture where pain endurance is a virtue. Especially if you belong to a middle-class Brahmin household like I do, endurance is almost celebrated. The more you endure, the more virtuous you are seen. Enduring disrespect, emotional starvation, the absence of love or harmony, all of this gets woven into your story. […]
There is ongoing debate about whether an obsession with physical fitness is beneficial or harmful. Like any extreme behavior, excessive focus on fitness can have its downsides. However, from my own experience and observation, I have seen that physically fit individuals tend to handle difficult situations with greater resilience and less stress. The connection between […]
Some losses are final and definitive. A death. A separation. A sudden shift that takes something away for what you believed it to be. Others are more insidious. They don’t just take. They erase. Smudge , create self doubt making you wonder who you are. Grief doesn’t just bring pain. It brings a quiet destruction […]
When life spirals into chaos, many of us turn to God, hoping for answers, clarity, or maybe just a miracle. And what do we get? Guilt and shame, wrapped in religious bows, whispering: “Did I deserve this?”“Am I being punished?”“Why am I the only one failing at life?” Here’s the truth: God isn’t your nosy […]
Embrace Chaos · Stories Twin Birds: Shame and Guilt Loss has a way of inviting company you never asked for. Did you lose a loved one? Did your relationship just end? Did you lose a job? Are you standing in the wreckage of something that used to be whole? What a perfect stage for the […]
When I became a single parent, the pain of that identity transformation was overwhelming. Staying focused on the good amidst such turmoil felt almost impossible, especially when there was no agreement on the causes of the breakdown. Accepting the situation was one step forward, but how does one handle the negative interactions or those deeply […]
The journey of healing and courage is rarely linear. After the loss of my firstborn son, the courage to have another child became an emotional battle. I needed to find a way to battle fear of death amidst grief. Coming from a traditional Brahmin community, I was advised to perform specific rituals or pujas. While […]