Most of us are performing love, not living it. We keep peace. We avoid discomfort. We shut down difficult conversations. We suppress anger. We are taught to behave a certain way if we want to be loved. But that is not love. That is polite survival. Real love is not a performance. It is a […]
Control vs Care: A Quiet Struggle for Mothers and Women If you are a woman and a mom, there’s always a fine line between control and care. We love control and yes, it often overlaps with care. It feels empowering, productive, even noble. But the truth is it rarely allows for moments of authentic connection. […]
We live in a culture where pain endurance is a virtue. Especially if you belong to a middle-class Brahmin household like I do, endurance is almost celebrated. The more you endure, the more virtuous you are seen. Enduring disrespect, emotional starvation, the absence of love or harmony, all of this gets woven into your story. […]
There is ongoing debate about whether an obsession with physical fitness is beneficial or harmful. Like any extreme behavior, excessive focus on fitness can have its downsides. However, from my own experience and observation, I have seen that physically fit individuals tend to handle difficult situations with greater resilience and less stress. The connection between […]
Some losses are final and definitive. A death. A separation. A sudden shift that takes something away for what you believed it to be. Others are more insidious. They don’t just take. They erase. Smudge , create self doubt making you wonder who you are. Grief doesn’t just bring pain. It brings a quiet destruction […]
When I became a single parent, the pain of that identity transformation was overwhelming. Staying focused on the good amidst such turmoil felt almost impossible, especially when there was no agreement on the causes of the breakdown. Accepting the situation was one step forward, but how does one handle the negative interactions or those deeply […]
The journey of healing and courage is rarely linear. After the loss of my firstborn son, the courage to have another child became an emotional battle. I needed to find a way to battle fear of death amidst grief. Coming from a traditional Brahmin community, I was advised to perform specific rituals or pujas. While […]
Let’s Get Real Most of us cling to our pain like a worm in dung, not because we want to, but because it’s familiar, and we’re damn good at living it over and over. We have an extraordinary ability to endure suffering, but here’s the kicker: that strength pales in comparison to the courage it […]
Dance has been a part of my life since I was five years old. Over the years, I’ve written about its ability to create an anchor, a sense of belonging, and the refinement of aesthetics. But its most profound gift to me has been its role in my journey through grief. It held me steady […]
Emotional resilience is the ability to bounce back, rediscover joy, and create light even in life’s toughest moments. It doesn’t happen overnight, it’s built through small, consistent actions that nurture your inner strength. Here are five effective ways to cultivate emotional resilience and regain your balance. Resilience starts with savoring life’s smallest pleasures. Make a […]